Hi All
I wonder if anyone can help me with this. Been up half the night worrying and just dont know what to think. Mom has VaD, diagnosed 10 days ago by psychiartist (spelling!) and is on an anti-psychotic drugs for severe delusions, hallucinations and aggression. I know its really early days as she is only on half a tab at mo rising to a full 50mg this coming friday. The reason I am writing is this; had a frantic phone call from my Dad yesterday teatime that Mom had attacked him with a knife. I rushed round and there was Dad,a wound on his neck (close to the jugular) which i would say is neither superficial nor life-threatening. I was shocked. It all happened because Sunday is the only day now she attempts to cook a meal whilst Dad at the social club and apparently she had messed it up (unsuprisingly) and Dad had critisised her.
Mom has denied it saying he picked a spot! I feel so sad and confused. She carried on the theme of why is that strange man there,pointing to Dad and asking me where he came from. She was also very angry telling him he was not having "her" TV on or touching "her" teabags etc. Whilst having her dinner she used a sharp vegtable knife and when Dad went to take her tray she threatened him with it. She had used a bread knife on his neck by the way.
I,at the time considered calling for out of hours help but I did not in case they take her away. Was I wrong? Dad was saying she will settle soon. I feel like Dad looked like he was about to have a heart attack with stress and for the first time ever Mom said "whats wrong,why am I like this?" we have kept the diagnosis from her and told her its memory problems.
Has anyone else experienced this and does it mean we are close to Dad (81) no longer being able to cope with her? I think I will ring the Doctor that came out originally for advice.
My very first post on here was "Dad is abusing Mom" in that he was shoving her and stuff which he claimed was self-defence. I really was against him and blamed him for everything but now I have seen a few incidents like this I feel I judged too harshly and Mom actually is hell to live with. They have been married 59 years and previous to Moms illness nothing like that had ever happened.
I feel like I am in a nightmare and will wake up one day soon and Mom is back to normal and some of this stress is gone from my head.
Thanks for "listening"
K x
I wonder if anyone can help me with this. Been up half the night worrying and just dont know what to think. Mom has VaD, diagnosed 10 days ago by psychiartist (spelling!) and is on an anti-psychotic drugs for severe delusions, hallucinations and aggression. I know its really early days as she is only on half a tab at mo rising to a full 50mg this coming friday. The reason I am writing is this; had a frantic phone call from my Dad yesterday teatime that Mom had attacked him with a knife. I rushed round and there was Dad,a wound on his neck (close to the jugular) which i would say is neither superficial nor life-threatening. I was shocked. It all happened because Sunday is the only day now she attempts to cook a meal whilst Dad at the social club and apparently she had messed it up (unsuprisingly) and Dad had critisised her.
Mom has denied it saying he picked a spot! I feel so sad and confused. She carried on the theme of why is that strange man there,pointing to Dad and asking me where he came from. She was also very angry telling him he was not having "her" TV on or touching "her" teabags etc. Whilst having her dinner she used a sharp vegtable knife and when Dad went to take her tray she threatened him with it. She had used a bread knife on his neck by the way.
I,at the time considered calling for out of hours help but I did not in case they take her away. Was I wrong? Dad was saying she will settle soon. I feel like Dad looked like he was about to have a heart attack with stress and for the first time ever Mom said "whats wrong,why am I like this?" we have kept the diagnosis from her and told her its memory problems.
Has anyone else experienced this and does it mean we are close to Dad (81) no longer being able to cope with her? I think I will ring the Doctor that came out originally for advice.
My very first post on here was "Dad is abusing Mom" in that he was shoving her and stuff which he claimed was self-defence. I really was against him and blamed him for everything but now I have seen a few incidents like this I feel I judged too harshly and Mom actually is hell to live with. They have been married 59 years and previous to Moms illness nothing like that had ever happened.
I feel like I am in a nightmare and will wake up one day soon and Mom is back to normal and some of this stress is gone from my head.
Thanks for "listening"
K x