Hi Folks, Haven't been posting much as I basically fell apart a week or so ago. The physical, emotional and mental exhaustion of 24/7 care for mum just got too much. Luckily I was able to organise a week's respite for her immediately. (This was done by myself with no help from any bloody services, I basically begged the residential home close by to take her, and I go down twice a day to see to her medications and nursing needs. It's awful that this is the only way it can be done, but I'm happy to go along with it because mum is so happy there and is very stimulated by the company) To anyone out there who is feeling the same I would urge you to recharge your batteries if you can arrange it. I am ready now to carry on again and looking forward to having her back. We carers have to remember we are not robots, there comes a time when we will collapse too. This is the second time this year for me, but at least I knew the "burnout" signs, thanks to the selfish pig's guide! I very good book, thanks Jude for the recommendation.