My lovely nan has vascular dementia and does things that my mum and I cannot fathom and we'd love some ideas as to why ....she only uses half a toilet roll and then moves on to the next, stacking them up...she does the same with milk, uses half and then puts it back and opens another. She goes through bottles of mouth wash a week and toilet fluid but hates to be washed and gets very angry if questioned about why she is still in dirty clothes and has not out on fresh ones laid out for her. She is a nightmare to try and get fluid down so is always having water infections...we have tried many things like giving jellies for extra fluid, leaving different bottles directly by her, writing cheeky notes from the grandchildren to remind her to drink....she also loves sweet things so much more than she did and is really putting on weight by sneaking huge spoonfuls of jam etc, and will eat all the food left out for her in quick succession. Mum and I are struggling a bit as we cannot be there all the time as we have jobs and families and neither of us have siblings to help carry the burden. We'd just like to try and understand a few things to try and help her ...we desperately don't want her to go into a home, she would hate it so we are determined to go this alone and have had assessments for aids etc done, and have specialist mental health support but want to fathom these things out if possible ....