My OH has been in a care home for 8 weeks. It was extremely traumatic getting him there, and I had to 'lie' to even get him in the car! I have visited 3 times (each time with somebody with me),and every time has been really difficult. The moment he sees me he just says we're going home, then gets more and more angry when we don't leave. Twice I've had to 'escape' and once I told him I was going to the loo - and left. The CH just advise distraction, but it doesn't work for me. Once I've gone he's OK & seems to forget. Yet when I visit him again he remembers that I disappeared the last time! I'm seriously wondering if there's any point in me visiting at the moment. He gets really angry, and it's very distressing for me (and the person with me). I wonder if anybody has the same problem - and any advice?