Hello all.
My Father passed away in January, he was 76. It's taken me a little while to come back to the site and share this news. I have not really been a very regular poster here but I have looked in from time to time. On occasion I have posted a few questions and answered one or two so I would like to say thanks to those that helped me and express my hope that anything I may have said here helped someone else.
Dad was admitted to Hospital in early November last year after suffering a stroke, he made quite a good physical recovery but the AD continued to confuse and bewilder him, we had him home for 3 or 4 days just before xmas but it was simply impossible for mum to cope, he went back to hospital again where he contracted the winter vomiting illness, this made it difficult for the hospital to discharge Dad to the specialist home where we had - by then - found him a place. I can only assume that Dad didn't fancy the idea of a home or that he had some other or better plan, as on January the 13th I had a phone call from the hospital, not the one I had been expecting to tell me he was clear of the virus and was being moved to his new home - but telling me he'd "taken a turn for the worse", he passed away that afternoon.
I, my Mother and my Sister were with him holding his hand and talking to him throughout that day. He was so peaceful that after so much confusion and agitation in the last few weeks it was something of a relief to see him finally resting.
I find myself on occasion quite dreadfully sad and on other occasions relieved that Dad was spared some of the true indignities that very advanced AD sufferers experience, although as all here may or at least should realise, these are not indignities for the sufferer but rather for the carer as the victim has little or no awareness of their predicament.
I would like to try to leave this posting on a positive note. On one of my last visits with Dad, I took my Wife with me, something that we hadn't done before for reasons of logistics (with young children) but this time we were able to go together.
Dad looked at my wife and said who's that? (he had known her well before the AD). I said "that's my wife Dad, she's come to see how you are" He smiled and replied, "she's a lovely girl, make sure you look after her"
That, and "see you soon" were the last things my Father ever said to me. Well I will look after her Dad and I will see you again, but not too soon I hope!!
Best wishes to you all.
My Father passed away in January, he was 76. It's taken me a little while to come back to the site and share this news. I have not really been a very regular poster here but I have looked in from time to time. On occasion I have posted a few questions and answered one or two so I would like to say thanks to those that helped me and express my hope that anything I may have said here helped someone else.
Dad was admitted to Hospital in early November last year after suffering a stroke, he made quite a good physical recovery but the AD continued to confuse and bewilder him, we had him home for 3 or 4 days just before xmas but it was simply impossible for mum to cope, he went back to hospital again where he contracted the winter vomiting illness, this made it difficult for the hospital to discharge Dad to the specialist home where we had - by then - found him a place. I can only assume that Dad didn't fancy the idea of a home or that he had some other or better plan, as on January the 13th I had a phone call from the hospital, not the one I had been expecting to tell me he was clear of the virus and was being moved to his new home - but telling me he'd "taken a turn for the worse", he passed away that afternoon.
I, my Mother and my Sister were with him holding his hand and talking to him throughout that day. He was so peaceful that after so much confusion and agitation in the last few weeks it was something of a relief to see him finally resting.
I find myself on occasion quite dreadfully sad and on other occasions relieved that Dad was spared some of the true indignities that very advanced AD sufferers experience, although as all here may or at least should realise, these are not indignities for the sufferer but rather for the carer as the victim has little or no awareness of their predicament.
I would like to try to leave this posting on a positive note. On one of my last visits with Dad, I took my Wife with me, something that we hadn't done before for reasons of logistics (with young children) but this time we were able to go together.
Dad looked at my wife and said who's that? (he had known her well before the AD). I said "that's my wife Dad, she's come to see how you are" He smiled and replied, "she's a lovely girl, make sure you look after her"
That, and "see you soon" were the last things my Father ever said to me. Well I will look after her Dad and I will see you again, but not too soon I hope!!
Best wishes to you all.