First time posting so please forgive me if posted in the wrong section. Mum went into respite 2 weeks ago and has a week of respite left. All this has been self funded so far. Before going into respite we had a feeling that mum may need 24/7 care as my father has been her main carer and TBH he has done more than we thought he could. Mums mental health nurse has recommended 24/7 care in a EMI home and the social worker has also completed her assessment with the same outcome. Currently the respite home is not EMI registered so we are on the hunt for a suitable home. They have said they cannot extend her stay beyond the end of her respite stay. Social worker is in contact with a few NH but one recommendation is in special measures under the CQC reports which ain’t keen on for obvious reasons. My concern is what happens at the end of my mums respite car. My father has said he can’t cope 24/7 care anymore and it has been recommended that that she needs 24/7 care. Social worker mentioned a short stay somewhere before a permanent NH can be found but would rather have her settled in one place asap. At some point in the not too distant future we will need the LA to fund but we are not adverse to top up fees. My main fear is that my mum will have to come home after the respite is over and then tip my father over the edge. Safeguarding for my mum is paramount as is the mental health for my father. Anybody give me any advice of what options are open to us? TIA.