Thanks to the moral support on here I managed to get dad in respite and he has been in there two weeks tomorrow with one more week to go.
He took a while to settle and I have kept my distance as if I phone or go there he says he is going home and he has had enough. He says it is a rubbish job and he isn't being paid. (He says the same at home!) yesterday he told them he was going to the police as they don't like him anymore so they rung me saying he wanted to have a chat and he was fine.
The staff are great and seem to love him. They say he is eating well which he wasn't at home and he is chatty and not aggressive at all.
Here is the tricky bit and I know this has been discussed on here. For the last two weeks I have had my life back. I have slept and even managed to see a few friends. I am 31 on Sunday and the thought of going to dinner with my mates and not having to rush back is to be honest, amazing. The guilt I feel is immense though. He is somewhere that isn't home and every time I speak to him he wants to home. However I am dreading him coming back and I am really considering if it is better if he becomes permanent. This was in the back of my mind but it has been him being safe and fed well that makes me think he is probably better to remain there.
if I let him come home and then want to put him back in a home I might face a resistance from him. I was debating this as a local home which is good is cheaper but then he is used to staff where is his now and he will kick off if I try to make him go into another home.
I just don't know what to do and the guilt is killing me.
He took a while to settle and I have kept my distance as if I phone or go there he says he is going home and he has had enough. He says it is a rubbish job and he isn't being paid. (He says the same at home!) yesterday he told them he was going to the police as they don't like him anymore so they rung me saying he wanted to have a chat and he was fine.
The staff are great and seem to love him. They say he is eating well which he wasn't at home and he is chatty and not aggressive at all.
Here is the tricky bit and I know this has been discussed on here. For the last two weeks I have had my life back. I have slept and even managed to see a few friends. I am 31 on Sunday and the thought of going to dinner with my mates and not having to rush back is to be honest, amazing. The guilt I feel is immense though. He is somewhere that isn't home and every time I speak to him he wants to home. However I am dreading him coming back and I am really considering if it is better if he becomes permanent. This was in the back of my mind but it has been him being safe and fed well that makes me think he is probably better to remain there.
if I let him come home and then want to put him back in a home I might face a resistance from him. I was debating this as a local home which is good is cheaper but then he is used to staff where is his now and he will kick off if I try to make him go into another home.
I just don't know what to do and the guilt is killing me.