Dear all
My mother was diagnosed with early onset dementia in 2012 - she is now 77. She was initially sectioned as she was deemed to be at risk living alone.
Over the years, her communication skills have diminished considerably and on most occasions does not recognise her children/family. However, my family takes her out of the 'Assessment Centre', where she lives, at least four times a week, to keep her involved in the family and for extra stimulation.
My mother always had a volatile personality, but I think the illness compounded this volatility and is the main reason she has not moved into residential care from the Assessment Centre.
Anyway, last Sunday she had a 'Stroke', which has resulted in paralysis of her left side and one side of her face. Her communication skills, albeit limited, have not seemed to have worsened, but she is unable to take food or drink because of potential aspiration.
The hospital have also now removed the drip as it was causing a swelling of the arm and because my mother was 'ripping' it out, anyway. Therefore, they have said that because of her condition she will now be 'nil by mouth' and that they just want to make her comfortable.
Mother is clearly agitated and restless and it is painful seeing her so distressed. My sister finds it especially difficult, as she just wants her to get better and is finding it difficult that the hospital seems to want to just make her comfortable before she dies.
For me, not pushing the hospital to try other methods of feeding and not helping her recover is causing me some anxiety. Obviously, I do not want to see my mother suffer, but I'm conflicted that I am letting her die and feel, emotionally, that is wrong.
I also do not want my sister to feel that I do not care or at best indifferent.
Any views?
Regards,
My mother was diagnosed with early onset dementia in 2012 - she is now 77. She was initially sectioned as she was deemed to be at risk living alone.
Over the years, her communication skills have diminished considerably and on most occasions does not recognise her children/family. However, my family takes her out of the 'Assessment Centre', where she lives, at least four times a week, to keep her involved in the family and for extra stimulation.
My mother always had a volatile personality, but I think the illness compounded this volatility and is the main reason she has not moved into residential care from the Assessment Centre.
Anyway, last Sunday she had a 'Stroke', which has resulted in paralysis of her left side and one side of her face. Her communication skills, albeit limited, have not seemed to have worsened, but she is unable to take food or drink because of potential aspiration.
The hospital have also now removed the drip as it was causing a swelling of the arm and because my mother was 'ripping' it out, anyway. Therefore, they have said that because of her condition she will now be 'nil by mouth' and that they just want to make her comfortable.
Mother is clearly agitated and restless and it is painful seeing her so distressed. My sister finds it especially difficult, as she just wants her to get better and is finding it difficult that the hospital seems to want to just make her comfortable before she dies.
For me, not pushing the hospital to try other methods of feeding and not helping her recover is causing me some anxiety. Obviously, I do not want to see my mother suffer, but I'm conflicted that I am letting her die and feel, emotionally, that is wrong.
I also do not want my sister to feel that I do not care or at best indifferent.
Any views?
Regards,