Hi all, Mum In Law has been cared for at home full time for five and a half years, late stage dementia on CHC; a few weeks ago she had a massive stroke. She was completely dependent on us before, but now she is also completely non responsive. The doctors regard her as a 'goner' and will not / cannot do anything for her. She is still swallowing, just about. So it seems that our only options are to keep trying to get her to eat and take fluids (which is often traumatic for all involved) or to sit back and watch her starve to death. It seems insane, so incredibly cruel. My husband and brother in law are dedicated to doing everything to help her and they cannot countenance letting her starve to death. We understand that may be inevitable if her swallow fails, but I am worried as to how my husband will cope with that. I just wonder if anyone else has been through this situation and has any advice or words of support as I am finding it really stark right now. Am I missing something here? What are we actually supposed to do?!