Hello,
Has anyone been looking after a loved one at home until they pass away?
We are a family looking after our Mum at home as she never wanted to go into a care home. We are under palliative care, but they are not involved too much yet.
Mum has a UTI and should be taking antibiotics but she is refusing and she is drinking little, we don't think is worth putting her in hospital as she had been in several times now and we don't want to put her through it and she will be the same in hospital, she will not drink and they probably will not give fluids anymore, she has blind since Feb and is bed bound.
I feel in despair as she is so agressive when I try to give her a drink or medicine she tells me to f off and go away. Its hard to know at which stage do you let go and give up or do you keep trying and get the same answer, sometimes we have a small window of oppertuinity to give her a drink or her medicine but its not enough, my Mum was a tubby lady but now she is losing weight. The palliative care nurse did say that when she stopped eating that she is ok and she will not feel hungry but she looks so dry as she is starting to drink less and we are all getting upset. The pallaitive care nurse in coming to speak to us Tuesday.
Has anyone out there had their love one die at home and was it OK?, I am finding it so hard to let her go and give up making her drink if she does not want too.
Mum had frontal lobe dementia and can be agressive which makes it hard too. She is not eating had not eaten for about 8 weeks, living on Milk, tea and high cal drinks, but this last couple of days she has probably only had a litre of fluids, mostly tea and water. She is sleeping a lot too.
Thanks for reading
Has anyone been looking after a loved one at home until they pass away?
We are a family looking after our Mum at home as she never wanted to go into a care home. We are under palliative care, but they are not involved too much yet.
Mum has a UTI and should be taking antibiotics but she is refusing and she is drinking little, we don't think is worth putting her in hospital as she had been in several times now and we don't want to put her through it and she will be the same in hospital, she will not drink and they probably will not give fluids anymore, she has blind since Feb and is bed bound.
I feel in despair as she is so agressive when I try to give her a drink or medicine she tells me to f off and go away. Its hard to know at which stage do you let go and give up or do you keep trying and get the same answer, sometimes we have a small window of oppertuinity to give her a drink or her medicine but its not enough, my Mum was a tubby lady but now she is losing weight. The palliative care nurse did say that when she stopped eating that she is ok and she will not feel hungry but she looks so dry as she is starting to drink less and we are all getting upset. The pallaitive care nurse in coming to speak to us Tuesday.
Has anyone out there had their love one die at home and was it OK?, I am finding it so hard to let her go and give up making her drink if she does not want too.
Mum had frontal lobe dementia and can be agressive which makes it hard too. She is not eating had not eaten for about 8 weeks, living on Milk, tea and high cal drinks, but this last couple of days she has probably only had a litre of fluids, mostly tea and water. She is sleeping a lot too.
Thanks for reading