Hello TP'ers Dad has recently gone into a care home and we have been involved in setting up the care plan etc. One of the pages of the plan asks lots of questions about end of life care including if a DNR has been set up. I appreciate why the home needs to know this( the DNR) but why at this stage do they need to know if dad wants to be cremated or buried, where he wants this to be, what funeral director he wants to use and what he wants to wear? Surely when the time comes we will arrange where dad is moved to(as in the funeral directors) and then after that we will get on with the funeral arrangements. Why ask this now as currently we cannot answer these questions as surely they don't expect us to ask dad himself or our mum who herself has dementia. Isn't this something that the family will deal with at the time? Is this normal to ask these questions? Thanks for your help.