hi all my mum's been in a care home now for 6 weeks and remains unsettled and unhappy. Over this time we have continued to visit and she came out for visits over christmas. The home now say this has 'unsettled' her (surely you have to be settled in order to be 'un'ed, but hey, what do i know?) and that it would be best if we either do not visit for the time being, or at least visit much less. This will allow her to settle down again. Has anyone any experience of this working? The doctor also advised less visits. If this will work, we are prepared to do it, if it is going to make mum's life better in the long run, but it seems abit cruel to me. Her claims that we have dumped her in 'that hole' and abandoned her, will certainly appear to be true!! Any advice welcome.