I thought I'd heard it all when my husband was sick, and was going through chemo and radiation when my 2 kids were only 18mths & 6yrs, ( you really get to see who you can count on ) but I really expected differently, when Mum (72) was diagnosed with a form of Leukemia 2 yrs ago, surgery in Jan for early stage bowel cancer, and now moderate AD diagnosis. Especially as I am still carer for my husband, 2 kids 11 & 16, and now main carer for Mum.
Mum thank goodness has never driven but has always been independant, walking everywhere or catching buses. Sadly this no longer happens and I wouldn't want her to.
Dad is quite content to stay a home every day, but Mum gets restless and a bit depressed. Our gloomy rainy winter weather doesn't help. ( sorry I know there is a heat wave in the UK at the moment. )
She does go to a senior citz club 2x a week, and I take her out as much as her can.
I am checking into a day programme through our AD Society
BUT
I've lost count of how many family members (and Mums sisters) have said
"We'll take your Mum out for lunch"
"We"ll take your Mum out for a coffee"
"We'll come over and visit"
"We'll organise a get together and pick your Mum & Dad up"
"We"ll pick your Mum & Dad up and have them over for tea"
"We should have a ladies weekend away somewhere"
IT NEVER HAPPENS! Do I really need to phone them and remind them!?
If I can expect this when Mum is still relatively well, what can I expect when she gets worse???
I know this sounds completely awful, but by the time they do visit, I wouldn't feel at all bad if Mum doesn't know who they are
Mum thank goodness has never driven but has always been independant, walking everywhere or catching buses. Sadly this no longer happens and I wouldn't want her to.
Dad is quite content to stay a home every day, but Mum gets restless and a bit depressed. Our gloomy rainy winter weather doesn't help. ( sorry I know there is a heat wave in the UK at the moment. )
She does go to a senior citz club 2x a week, and I take her out as much as her can.
I am checking into a day programme through our AD Society
BUT
I've lost count of how many family members (and Mums sisters) have said
"We'll take your Mum out for lunch"
"We"ll take your Mum out for a coffee"
"We'll come over and visit"
"We'll organise a get together and pick your Mum & Dad up"
"We"ll pick your Mum & Dad up and have them over for tea"
"We should have a ladies weekend away somewhere"
IT NEVER HAPPENS! Do I really need to phone them and remind them!?
If I can expect this when Mum is still relatively well, what can I expect when she gets worse???
I know this sounds completely awful, but by the time they do visit, I wouldn't feel at all bad if Mum doesn't know who they are