I was struck by an article in our regional newspaper this morning from the AS, urging family and friends to spend as much time with their relative or friend even though the person with dementia may not recognise them or contribute very much in conversation. Sadly, it would appear that 39 per cent did not see any point as the dementia sufferer would not benefit. In other words, 'what's the point?' A second survey revealed that 64 per cent of people with dementia feel isolated and excluded. One carer said that while her husband might come across in an unresponsive way when they share a meal with friends or go out, her husband is usually in good spirits afterwards and says how much he enjoys it. I connect with this as my husband often tries to wriggle out of events, dinners, lunches, social activities where there might be some pressure on him, but during and afterwards he is perky and has enjoyed it. It is because while the actual memory fails, the emotional memory remains in a sense of well being, happiness, comfort, feeling valued etc. My husband still absolutely loves the theatre, cinema, concerts, singing from choirs etc and is very moved or laughs if it amusing. Yet he may not be able to tell someone else what show he has been to! Interesting point and it reinforced my determination to keep us going out as much as possible and remain involved.