I remember that it was my mother who first told me that C........ and her sister had put their mother in a "place near the seaside" and only went there twice a year, this was long before there was any question of "putting" my mother anywhere, and at the time I thought (and probably said) that it was a terrible thing to do. I don't think we'd ever have done that with ours, in fact were only quarrelling about which of us she should be nearer to. I knew that the time might come that she wouldn't remember who we were, but obviously the longer you put off visiting the sooner that time does come.
C........ was very keen to advise us what to do with ours, based on her experience.
Anyway we couldn't put our mother anywhere without her consent (or the social worker's).
C........ was very keen to advise us what to do with ours, based on her experience.
Anyway we couldn't put our mother anywhere without her consent (or the social worker's).
Lila13 said:I know someone who says her mother is in a very nice place where they visit her twice a year, "she can't remember who we are anyway". Well, that's their relationship and what they can deal with. I don't think there are any rules.