Hi not been here for a while. Not had much contact with my mother since she rased conerns and told me not to go back to see her etc. I have actually found a hairdresser who will shape my hair to my liking but my mother is still vile and says awful things to me. She still holds the opinion that I have an adictive personality and now says that I am only obeying her because I am worried I may never see her again before she dies so I am not having my hair done because I want to, I am having it done because she forced me into it. Nobody forces me to do anything. I am actually doing it for me. We are still at loggerheads and that I am afraid will never change. She excerts a lot of power and always has done long before she had dementia. My father was so afraid of her he just obeyed her. I am not like that but she thinks she has the power and the upper hand over me and that I am afraid of never seeing her again. She is completely wrong on that score and if it came to it, my happiness and well being is more important than doing as she says just so that I can see her again. So when I get it done, I have told her I am sending her a photo of what I look like and if she does not like it then there is nothing else I can do and we wil never see one another again.