Hello Norman..
Dear Norman,
sorry to hear about your Peg and her throat infection..........
right now my teenage daughter has a streptoccal throat , the worst part was when she nearly collapsed after the booster (1000mg) injection........
she's a teenager and we have to fuss over her, like now she's watching a pay-film instead of being at school, and I'm missing Roland Garros!!!
So I came here to see how every1 is doing..........
My mother is 91 now and she has lost a lot of weight my sisters tell me...........
she was always as far as I can remember big-built, handsome woman - great golfer - which she passed on to my son!
Problem is when she had her medication taken off (unbeknown to family members) at hospital where she had her hip-op (successfully done) she is back to square one, and unsettled again.......and I am far away wondering whether to leave my plane ticket for summer until things are more clear for her.
She may have to go to a place she hates, to have it all sorted out, which I'm b eginning to think would be a bad idea as she's starting to settle with the splendid staff at her 17-patient nursing home (not far from her last family home). She has countless visits, but the last time my family (brother and sisters) went to see her , she was unaware of what was going on - didn'ot speak till the end when she over-politely said, " Thank you for coming. Goodbye" my sister was speechless, and somewhat amused at this sudden utterance of formality.
She's lost a lot of hair(her beautiful soft white hair has been falling out) why , is it part and parcel of the process, this whole prolonged ghastly affair of matters.??
I'm sure nobody deserves this end-deal, as I guess that's what it is.........she asks my aunt not to bring flowers (she who LOVED everything is nature) It's as if subconsciously she doesn't want anything to do with love.......I don't know, it's the saddest disease - hers is vascular dementia so she does have quite a bit of recognition with family members.........but she hates when they have musical concerts at the home and she always ADORED music , she was always an ostrich burying its head in the sand, when she didn't want to hear something........maybe there's a chord struck, somewhere, reminding her of her loving, doting kind husband who died 3 years ago,...........it seems like a lifetime ago now, he pushed himself to the limit (emfisema) taking her out in the car, and just being there, but when things got bad he got a carer in for her, and from then on it progressed to getting a group of carers(when he died, as she went downhill fast) from an agency, and now since not long ago, she's in this nursing home.......
Well Norman, I didn't mean to go on so much about my situation with my mother, but I know how you all are suffering, having been through some of that myself, I would stay over in the summer when my own family went back to Spain, and try and be of some help , by just being there.
Well, maybe there is a reason for all this, if you believe in an after-life, and many do, I for one, so I just hope there'll b e some light at the end of the tunnel, and .............................. . that's all.
Best wishes to you and your loved one,
mailife49