early onset AD carers

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by daizee, Mar 31, 2006.

  1. daizee

    daizee Registered User

    Mar 31, 2006
    51
    Broken Hill, Australia
    #1 daizee, Mar 31, 2006
    Last edited: Mar 31, 2006
    Iwould love to hear from any one who cares for a loved one with early onset AD My husband was diognosed at 47 and now at 53 is in the severe stage How has it affected the person you care for, and you as carer .How did it progress how do you cope and how do family members react..How have you come to terms with what is to come.I'm doing OK but now and then I'd like to hear from someone in the same boat. Thanks
     
  2. Brucie

    Brucie Registered User

    Jan 31, 2004
    12,413
    near London
    Hi daizee

    welcome to Talking Point.
    My wife Jan was 50 when her symptoms started, but it took until she was 58 for the doctors to diagnose her formally. I had figured it out by the time she was 54.
    How do you define "severe stage" in terms of your husband's condition?
    utterly and completely, physically and mentally
    completely wrecked both our lives
    Jan has both AD and Vascular dementia. It progressed slowly and steadily, with sharp progressions during the first 8 years. After that Jan's capabilities dipped greatly and she continues to decline at 65. I'm expecting perhaps another 10-12 years in the most severe stage
    originally very badly [though not in front of Jan] with deep depression
    Mine helped as much as they could which in practical terms was not a lot. Their support was very welcome and they were there for me. I just couldn't call on them. Jan's family pretty much disappeared
    By what is to come, do you mean another 12 years of the same, or Jan's death? If the former, I'll never come to terms with that as I don't have a helluva lot more left myself, and it stops me getting on with a new life fully - besides its being hell on earth for Jan. If you mean Jan's death, then I won't really know until it happens. At present my feelings are that it will be welcome because what she has now is not living. But every time I think "there can't be worse" then she drops another notch and that is worse.

    Jan is now in specialist care home and is as well looked after as she can be. That situation doesn't change my position as a carer, of course, especially after 41 years together.
     

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