Hi everyone I'm new to the board and have read all the posts so far and this seems such a great support network. I am in need of advice. My mum is 63 and has not been diagnosed formally with Alzheimer's although she has been displaying symptoms for about 6 years. The problem that my family are having is getting my mum to the doctor's. Everytime my dad mentions it, my mum flies off the handle and says that we are trying to get rid of her. The upshot is my dad has decided not to do anything about it as he doesn't want to upset my mum. He has decided that there is not enough evidence to show that early intervention has any bearing on the progress of the disease. However, i think that this may just be an excuse as so not to cause my mum any distress. In your opinion how important is this early intervention? My mum is in early to mid stages (I think) of the disease. Like the previous thread - conversation has got difficult and she has been getting increasingly paranoid. This has been particularly hard for me as she keeps thinking that I am deliberatley leaving her out of conversations and that I'm only interested in my dad. I went to stay with them recently and it got to the point where my mum just stopped speaking to me and if I said anything to my dad she would fly into a rage throwing things round the house saying that I hated her. I really do try and make a fuss of her when I see her and do include her but I also need to support dad. i understand that she can't help it but is it worth trying to rationalise the situation with her? My brother explained that her behaviour was upsetting me and she then get really upset saying that she wouldn't hurt me for the world. i felt awful as I know she can't help it but I did feel that she made more of an effort that afternoon although since then if I go and visit she can still get cross at me. PS this summer has been so hard - have just realised that I am loosing my mum and like mandyp was saying in the previous thread she was the happiest, bubbly, warm person and the best mum anyone could have.