My mother-in-law has Altzheimers, and I have detected what I think are early indicators in my husband (who is 58 years old). His memory has been deteriorating but has been compensated for by me reminding him for some time of appointments, things to do each day, etc. He has had problems for a long time with dialling phone numbers, remembering days/dates, etc., but I am now very worried because he has become very argumentative and aggressive over the slightest thing. I can cope with the memory loss, but not the aggressiveness or the "confiscating" of things as "punishment" if I step out of line. He has also become violent on two occasions recently. He also obsesses about paperwork and can spend hours "sorting out" our study (and destroying things that are important to me) - is this Altzheimers? The nurse who looks after my mother-in-law has met my husband and has said he must be scanned - but HOW do I get him to go?