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H Dunwell just read you thread and although I always defended the right for a person with dementia to continue driving and I’m delighted to see mother-in-law was still driving at the age of 88 albeit she had a bump or two however I must concede to your better judgement on her ability to continueHi all, this is a very interesting subject.
My M-I-L was diagnosed with mild to moderate AD in March 2020 at the age of 88 and when I went with her to the memory clinic I requested that the Consultant reject her request to keep driving (with my husband's absolute agreement). She WAS a very good driver but in the year before her diagnosis her little car looked like a bumper car! She hit the end of the garage, the side of the garage, the roundabout and the neighbour's fence but always had an excuse - it was windy, the door was narrower, the fence had been painted, etc. She thought she was driving carefully by doing 20mph on the Oxford bypass...
A year later she still thinks it was because DVLA stop everybody with a diagnosis, no matter how advanced the symptoms. She'd be heart-broken if she knew I'd requested it, especially as until very recently she hasn't acknowledged the diagnosis.
We had to disable the car to stop her driving as she thought she'd be OK to pop to the shops, but we couldn't take the risk. There are 3 schools within 1/4 mile and after too many prangs we couldn't risk the life of a child. We made the decision to sell the car and although she still complains about it, we just remind her of all the money she's saved.
Welcome to TP @Female1952I'm sorry - it's not just the driver's life, it's the life of the child the driver hits. You may be safe, or as safe as the average driver, but at a certain point the vast majority of those with dementia are not safe.
I don't have dementia, as far as I know, but I chose to give up driving at 60 because I twice got cut up on the motorway and I became very scared. I could still drive but I knew I might make the wrong decision in an emergency because I was "spooked".
This chimes with my experience with my husband, very similar regarding the TV remote and his comments. He was told by the GP to stop driving the day he did the memory test nearly a year ago now, and I sent his licence to the DVLA to avoid any further discussion. He wasn't happy about it but his driving was awful. Now when I drive he says what's the rush when I'm going say 60 on a 70mph dual carriageway and tuts because it's too slow when I'm going 20mph which is the speed limit around where we live.I have noticed that my father, whose dementia is still mild to moderate, has increasingly found it hard to operate equipment of all sorts ranging from the TV remote to a printer. I believe this is a common observation. A car is a piece of equipment too, but unlike the TV remote, it can kill. I have also noticed that his judgement, from the passenger seat nowadays, of speed and distances seems to be in decline. He tends to criticise other drivers for excess speed when in my view they were driving all right. I don't know if others have observed anything similar.