Hi
My mum is going into a care home tomorrow and I'm dreading how she'll react and how I'm going to deal with it.
Her and dad have been married 65 years , she was diagnosed with vascular dementia nearly 5years ago, he's partially sighted and up to now he's managed to care for her at home with my help, but a few months back he cracked and said he couldn't cope anymore. They had carers in a few times a week and between we managed - but he doesn't want people coming in at all hours ( mums now up several times a night) and his own health was suffering . I totally respect and support his decision which as a proud and loving husband has been very difficult for him, but I've been the one dealing with all the practicalities and have found it so emotional and stressful trying to do what's best for both of them -that to be honest I'm struggling to cope with it all . Mum is so attached to dad and. I think she'll be devastated to be apart from him. We've found a lovely care home and I know she'll be well cared for and my dad will get the rest and break he needs and that it's the best option all round for everyone ... But I just feel so awful and seem to be in tears all the time.. I will be strong tomorrow but deep down its breaking my heart.. Sorry just needed to get this out
My mum is going into a care home tomorrow and I'm dreading how she'll react and how I'm going to deal with it.
Her and dad have been married 65 years , she was diagnosed with vascular dementia nearly 5years ago, he's partially sighted and up to now he's managed to care for her at home with my help, but a few months back he cracked and said he couldn't cope anymore. They had carers in a few times a week and between we managed - but he doesn't want people coming in at all hours ( mums now up several times a night) and his own health was suffering . I totally respect and support his decision which as a proud and loving husband has been very difficult for him, but I've been the one dealing with all the practicalities and have found it so emotional and stressful trying to do what's best for both of them -that to be honest I'm struggling to cope with it all . Mum is so attached to dad and. I think she'll be devastated to be apart from him. We've found a lovely care home and I know she'll be well cared for and my dad will get the rest and break he needs and that it's the best option all round for everyone ... But I just feel so awful and seem to be in tears all the time.. I will be strong tomorrow but deep down its breaking my heart.. Sorry just needed to get this out
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