Dont want to be mums carer any more

sunflower2

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Jan 3, 2019
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Mum has lived with me for 4 years now. At the beginning it was not too bad. But as time has gone by it has got harder. Before lock down I was lucky that mum was able to go to her club every day but since lock down nothing. I am beginning to feel a bit resentful now...4 years of my life not being my own. As said she has gone down a bit.
Her mobility since the lock down has really gone down we cannot go anywhere outside the house.
I do not even think when her club does open that she will be able to go back. I would like to add I also have a daughter with severe special needs so it's either lick down that has affected me or I really need to think of a care home for her. I know she would hate it as she is still able to understand..she just cannot look after herself. The guilt of even thinking about it is awful
 

Citroen 2cv

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Mar 1, 2019
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Hi I am in a similar situation. i have been carer to mum also worked as a live in carer so in affect doing 2 jobs. I have also been helping mum financially. I moved her in with me just before lockdown since then I haven’t been able to work so made the decision to stay with mum. I am finding it incredibly difficult as mum and I haven’t really been close. We live in Spain and there is very little help with dementia. i am fighting the feelings of guilt and resentment as I don’t have a life .
sorry no advice but I fully understand.
 

karaokePete

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Jul 23, 2017
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N Ireland
Hello, I don't have much to say other than that the lockdown has made a difficult situation worse so none of us has anything to feel guilty about.

I wish you both strength. Please keep posting as you will get support here because people understand.
 

sunflower2

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Jan 3, 2019
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Hi I am in a similar situation. i have been carer to mum also worked as a live in carer so in affect doing 2 jobs. I have also been helping mum financially. I moved her in with me just before lockdown since then I haven’t been able to work so made the decision to stay with mum. I am finding it incredibly difficult as mum and I haven’t really been close. We live in Spain and there is very little help with dementia. i am fighting the feelings of guilt and resentment as I don’t have a life .
sorry no advice but I fully understand.
Thank you it's nice to know you understand