I appreciate that for religious reasons etc some people will not agree with what I'm about to say....I don't mean to offend anyone.
After spending some time in hospital, Mum is now in a home. It's been really hard on Dad and I. Mostly Dad though. I'm happier with her in there because it's eased the pressure on Dad and his health. He doesn't see it that way.
I'd like Dad to get some sort of life back (not forget Mum, nothing like that), but he's not an old man. Already he's being invited to parties etc by friends of him and Mum and isn't keen to go without a partner (he is going). He also likes going for a meal/theatre etc. As a family we all go out as often as possible together.
Am I really awful to wish he could find someone that he could holiday with, enjoy life with. I've suggested it (so that he knows that I'm not going to stand in the way of anything). He's not ready just now, but may be at some point.
Really I just wondered how other people found this stage, if anyone does indeed have a second chance at happiness etc.
Please realise I don't want to forget Mum/leave her or anything like that, I'd just like Dad to have a life after caring for her for so long. I don't feel that it's like an 'affair' or betrayal to Mum (I appreciate that some people might though).
Thanks
After spending some time in hospital, Mum is now in a home. It's been really hard on Dad and I. Mostly Dad though. I'm happier with her in there because it's eased the pressure on Dad and his health. He doesn't see it that way.
I'd like Dad to get some sort of life back (not forget Mum, nothing like that), but he's not an old man. Already he's being invited to parties etc by friends of him and Mum and isn't keen to go without a partner (he is going). He also likes going for a meal/theatre etc. As a family we all go out as often as possible together.
Am I really awful to wish he could find someone that he could holiday with, enjoy life with. I've suggested it (so that he knows that I'm not going to stand in the way of anything). He's not ready just now, but may be at some point.
Really I just wondered how other people found this stage, if anyone does indeed have a second chance at happiness etc.
Please realise I don't want to forget Mum/leave her or anything like that, I'd just like Dad to have a life after caring for her for so long. I don't feel that it's like an 'affair' or betrayal to Mum (I appreciate that some people might though).
Thanks