Mum has vasc dementia and Alz very advanced and now physically very weak to the point she needs help to stand up and can do nothing for herself. Dad is her full time carer and struggling at age 88 to cope. We only have morning carer to get mum washed and dressed other than that I increasingly give mum and dad more and more help. Dad is talking about a care home for mum, something I always resisted BUT don't know how much more I can give them. Recently bought a wheelchair access car to enable me and mum to get out more and she's been out 5 times in last fortnight, then today informs me she's not been out for a month and is fed up! I already do their washing, cleaning, shopping, some meals, all appointments etc and try to interact with mum every day. I give dad regular breaks. If after all this mum still feels unhappy, talking about moving, moaning about her meals, dad, carers etc would it be better to go down the home route I wonder? No point extra carers going into them as it just causes dad grief afterwards, we've tried that one.