Hi, been reading several of the messages. My mum was sen by a neurologist in September, and assessed, her score was very low and she looked physically terrible, told she had alzheimers and parkinsons, no treatment given, too early. Then seen by a psychiatrist, who assessed her, score was higher, said she had vascular dementia, no treatment given. Several things have happened, taken a long time for brother to accept something wrong and mum becoming a danger to herself at home, e.g. leaving as cooker on unlit, not washing (hates getting washed), incontinent of urine, sitting in a flood in the house for over 2 hours and not informing anyone, carer who called found her, fallen in bedroom, not taking medication correctly, not eating (this has been taken over by family). Seen recetly by another psychiatrist, after having expressed concerns, was told that she 'would not help me in putting my mother away'. Due to the stress, I have now got high blood pressure and anxiety and am on tablets for BP and beta blockers and been told by my GP to stand back more and let others help. She has carers 3 times a day (for which I had to scream at SS), they are useless at times. she lives alone and will not consider going anywhere, not even into a bungalow nearer to me. She does not talk to me only to say some unkind words to me, and I wonder at times if the things she does are put on, as she can be so different when my brother is there. I do help her a lot (I work full time to support son who is studying medicine), but am finding it all a strain at the moment. I was cut to the quick by the comments of the psychiatrist. I now don't know what to do, as I feel she has no awareness of risk, but the psychiatrist said that she was capable of making her own decisions, even though she cannot make a meal, only a cup of tea and doesn't know when to get washed, change her clothes, or get anything from the shop except bread and milk (which I have to throw away all the time). Sometimes I feel that she could cope alone, and then go the next day, and find that everything is a mess and she hasn't had a drink for 4 hours because she didn't realise!