Hi All
This is the first time ive posted here,though ive been visiting for the last few weeks.
Im going to go on a bit now so i apolagise in advance.
I first noticed my mum was having memory problems about 3 years ago,she did as well as she said the doctor had said it was due to her diabetes tablets.After about a year i spoke to the warden (she was in sheltred accomadation} who had also noticed,we tried for about 6 months to get help from someone,IE doctors social services ect,but without mums consent we could do nothing.She wouldt admit there was a problem.I noticed she was getting a lot worse,not changing clothes,not washing, not eating and forgetting diabetes tablets ect.The doctor came out one time and noticed she was asking the same questions and referred her to the mental health team,who sent a doctor to do an assesment and then a ental health nurse would cme out every 2/3 weeks for about 20 mins,and said well she seems to be doing ok just a bit depressed.
In january my dad died{they seperated 15 yrs ago}and from the day after she seemed to go down hill rapidly,phoning me all hours of the night thinking she was dumped a t a holiday camp,why hadnt my dad gone to get her ECT sure you all no what i mean.STILL no one done anything,even the warden {a new one}was getting concerned as she was wandering round the building at night looking for entertainment.She ended up in hospital with a broken arm and i had to plead with them to do some tests,as they still thought she could cope at home,despite the fact that she thought the hospital was a holicay camp,kept asking were she could buy postcards.She ended up spending 6 weeks in hospital,while social services sorted things out.They diagnosed Vascular Dementia and she has now gone into a EMI residental home.
Thing is i feel so cheated by the system,if something had been done before maybe she would still be living independantly.She never wanted to go in a home,she always said that.I feel so guilty that i havent been to see her yet,shes been there a week now.My daughter has been and said she seems ok,on a boat now.
I feel like ive lost my mum already and if i go it will be to visit a stranger.
Thanks for reading i feel a bit better for writing it all down.
JOY
This is the first time ive posted here,though ive been visiting for the last few weeks.
Im going to go on a bit now so i apolagise in advance.
I first noticed my mum was having memory problems about 3 years ago,she did as well as she said the doctor had said it was due to her diabetes tablets.After about a year i spoke to the warden (she was in sheltred accomadation} who had also noticed,we tried for about 6 months to get help from someone,IE doctors social services ect,but without mums consent we could do nothing.She wouldt admit there was a problem.I noticed she was getting a lot worse,not changing clothes,not washing, not eating and forgetting diabetes tablets ect.The doctor came out one time and noticed she was asking the same questions and referred her to the mental health team,who sent a doctor to do an assesment and then a ental health nurse would cme out every 2/3 weeks for about 20 mins,and said well she seems to be doing ok just a bit depressed.
In january my dad died{they seperated 15 yrs ago}and from the day after she seemed to go down hill rapidly,phoning me all hours of the night thinking she was dumped a t a holiday camp,why hadnt my dad gone to get her ECT sure you all no what i mean.STILL no one done anything,even the warden {a new one}was getting concerned as she was wandering round the building at night looking for entertainment.She ended up in hospital with a broken arm and i had to plead with them to do some tests,as they still thought she could cope at home,despite the fact that she thought the hospital was a holicay camp,kept asking were she could buy postcards.She ended up spending 6 weeks in hospital,while social services sorted things out.They diagnosed Vascular Dementia and she has now gone into a EMI residental home.
Thing is i feel so cheated by the system,if something had been done before maybe she would still be living independantly.She never wanted to go in a home,she always said that.I feel so guilty that i havent been to see her yet,shes been there a week now.My daughter has been and said she seems ok,on a boat now.
I feel like ive lost my mum already and if i go it will be to visit a stranger.
Thanks for reading i feel a bit better for writing it all down.
JOY