My mom went into a care home four weeks ago, its been devastating for all of us, luckily she does seem to have settled quite well in there and has become dependent on the staff there, who are lovely. Its just so hard knowing my mom has to be in there now, my dad is struggling quite a bit and is finding it very hard. When I went to visit her last week Thursday she was really bad with me, did not recognise me at all, kept crying and trying to get away from me, I had my two young children with me as my eldest was off school due to voting. She was very upset afterwards as my mom hasn't been like this before. Various family members went over the weekend and my mom was fine with them. Yesterday I went with my husband and she was even worse with me, it was obvious I was a complete stranger to her, again she was leaning away from me and crying, I was doing everything I could to distract her but nothing worked. The more I was there the more upset and agitated she was getting, after 20 mins we decided it was best to leave, before I did my mom threw her bag at me and got up and walked away, we had to follow her as that was the way out, she was more upset when she saw us following so I just walked past and she turned and sat back down. I couldn't help it but starting sobbing, even my husband was crying. I spoke to the carer after, they said she was fine before I got there and after I had gone. I don't know what to do, she only seems to be like it with me. I know its just the disease but it hurts so much