Hi I 'm not exactly new to TP but this is the first thread I've started, I don't post much but read everything and have gained a lot of strength from knowing there are other people out there.
My 89 year old mother lives with me I am her full time carer. She has dementia, what kind who knows as she doesn't go to the Dr unless forced which leads me to my problem. She has been suffering from what she thought were piles for about 2 years. She has a homeopath who has been 'treating' her but with no noticeable effect and as they seemed to be getting increasingly uncomfortable I made an appointment for her to see the practice nurse. I didn't tell her just 'called in' on the way to the day centre. Nurse took one look at the 'piles' and immediately called the doctor who was suddenly talking about possible cancer. We saw the consultant on Tuesday who wants Mum to have a biopsy taken next Thursday. Mum found the examination the consultant gave her extremely painful and is refusing to have anything else done as she say she is sure she doesn't have cancer and anyway doesn't need to know.
Now I obviously don't want her to have something she doesn't want to have but I do need to know one way or the other. My Dad (also with dementia) died from bowel cancer nearly 2 years ago and I nursed him at home with the support of district nurses Marie Curie nurses etc. I don't want to put Mum through anything but I 'm not sure of the support I would get if there is no diagnosis. I'm trying to see the practice nurse again to see what the implications are but have to wait until 2.30 to ring in for an emergency appointment this afternoon otherwise it will be Tuesday morning.
I really feel I'm already running on empty if you see what I mean. I suffer from depression and every time I seem to be on the up something else comes along and knocks me down again. I'm having counselling which is really helpful but I just need a bit of extra TP type help at the moment. Just getting this down on virtual paper has helped so thanks for 'listening'.
Cathyxx
My 89 year old mother lives with me I am her full time carer. She has dementia, what kind who knows as she doesn't go to the Dr unless forced which leads me to my problem. She has been suffering from what she thought were piles for about 2 years. She has a homeopath who has been 'treating' her but with no noticeable effect and as they seemed to be getting increasingly uncomfortable I made an appointment for her to see the practice nurse. I didn't tell her just 'called in' on the way to the day centre. Nurse took one look at the 'piles' and immediately called the doctor who was suddenly talking about possible cancer. We saw the consultant on Tuesday who wants Mum to have a biopsy taken next Thursday. Mum found the examination the consultant gave her extremely painful and is refusing to have anything else done as she say she is sure she doesn't have cancer and anyway doesn't need to know.
Now I obviously don't want her to have something she doesn't want to have but I do need to know one way or the other. My Dad (also with dementia) died from bowel cancer nearly 2 years ago and I nursed him at home with the support of district nurses Marie Curie nurses etc. I don't want to put Mum through anything but I 'm not sure of the support I would get if there is no diagnosis. I'm trying to see the practice nurse again to see what the implications are but have to wait until 2.30 to ring in for an emergency appointment this afternoon otherwise it will be Tuesday morning.
I really feel I'm already running on empty if you see what I mean. I suffer from depression and every time I seem to be on the up something else comes along and knocks me down again. I'm having counselling which is really helpful but I just need a bit of extra TP type help at the moment. Just getting this down on virtual paper has helped so thanks for 'listening'.
Cathyxx