I have been caring for my mum who has vascular dementia for approx 2 years now. She is 79 years old. She is at the stage now where she won't sleep at night or eat very much. When she gets up she doesn't know what time it is, etc. She has started to wander to the front door and open it but not go out through it yet. She doesn't know who I am, but she still calls me by my name if that makes sense. When I come home from work she would ask me if I'm just home from school. I am wandering at what stage other people have decided when the time is right to put their relatives into a nursing home? I just don't know what to do. I know she would probably be better of in a home but I don't know if I am ready to let go of her yet.