I am 21 years old and my grandfather is in the middle stages of Alzheimer's. My grandmother is his main carer, and is fantastic 75% of the time, mostly due to my mother being incredible and devoting all of her free time to looking after them, whether this is on the phone to them or having them at the house. My mum and dad have their own businesses, so don't have much free time, and the free time that they have is spent looking after my grandparents.
I was, well I suppose I still am, very close to my grandad. He's always been someone who I've looked up to, and almost idolised. I have almost come to terms with the fact that we have ultimately lost him. The part that is now hardest is the repercussions on the rest of my family.
My mum receives upto 15 phone calls per day from my gran, and around two visits per day from them, normally a day a week of having my grandad round at ours and then them both round all day sunday. She recieves no help from her brother in all of this.
My mum is amazing but she lost it, so to speak, tonight, and I am absolutely distraught.
I am a student in Manchester, and I feel complete and utter guilt that I went to university around the time of my grandad's diagnosis, I wish that I never went. I am in my fourth year of medical school, so it's only another 18 months and then I can move home. Although home is only 45 minutes from Manchester.
I phone my grandparents every day, in the hope that it is one less phone call for my mum. I come home every weekend to try and help my mum. I clean the house, and cook every sunday for everyone. With me being at university it'snoteasy for me to do much more, and I feel so guilty.
I hate the situation that we are in, it's a living nightmare. I can't stop crying. Has anyone got any suggestions?
Thanks for your help.
Emma
I was, well I suppose I still am, very close to my grandad. He's always been someone who I've looked up to, and almost idolised. I have almost come to terms with the fact that we have ultimately lost him. The part that is now hardest is the repercussions on the rest of my family.
My mum receives upto 15 phone calls per day from my gran, and around two visits per day from them, normally a day a week of having my grandad round at ours and then them both round all day sunday. She recieves no help from her brother in all of this.
My mum is amazing but she lost it, so to speak, tonight, and I am absolutely distraught.
I am a student in Manchester, and I feel complete and utter guilt that I went to university around the time of my grandad's diagnosis, I wish that I never went. I am in my fourth year of medical school, so it's only another 18 months and then I can move home. Although home is only 45 minutes from Manchester.
I phone my grandparents every day, in the hope that it is one less phone call for my mum. I come home every weekend to try and help my mum. I clean the house, and cook every sunday for everyone. With me being at university it'snoteasy for me to do much more, and I feel so guilty.
I hate the situation that we are in, it's a living nightmare. I can't stop crying. Has anyone got any suggestions?
Thanks for your help.
Emma