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Dols ???


Registered User
Apr 16, 2012
Haven't posted for a while but still check up most days. MIL now 88 has been in an NH for just over 2 years. She can't weight bear or feed herself and is doubly incontinent. She hasn't been outside for at least a year. She still knows us all but has no grasp of the relationships we have with each other (2 sons and wives).
About 3 weeks ago I took a phone call from a DOLS assessor. I was a bit surprised but duly noted what she said and promptly forgot about it. On Friday a registered letter arrived for OH. It's a stack of paperwork and a form to sign and send back agreeing to be MIL' s RPR. I've looked online and can't really see that she meets the criteria for this. Any thoughts anyone, please?


Registered User
May 21, 2014
To be honest, I think it's standard in a care home to have a DOLS in place to make it legal to keep them there for their best interest. I wouldn't worry too much, they are just making sure everything's above board.


Registered User
Apr 6, 2011
North Manchester
As a result of recent court cases many care homes are now putting a DOLS on all residents who lack capacity.

An RPR has to be appointed to represent the interests of the person whose liberty is being deprived, it is usual for a close friend or relative to be appointed.

Unless OH does not want to be RPR I would just go ahead with the paperwork. If he refuses it would mean that somebody else will be appointed to represent MIL.