It's me again. Well after thinking things were settling down with fil, social services have decided to jump straight back in again. DoLs was applied for by care home as assessment said he lacked capacity to decide where he wanted to live and he needed to stay in the care home. All he goes on about is going back to his flat, even though he has no awareness of what day, time, year it is, how little help he needs with everything and how lonely he was. We had a call from Best Interest Assessor who did the dols assessment and she said he was being deprived of his liberty but due to his memory, lack of sight and utter lack of understanding about his needs and surroundings it would be granted for 1 year.
We then get an email from SW saying that best interests meeting needs to be set up asap to decide fil long term future (they are still pushing for him to go back to the flat, even though every doctor and assessor says he lacks capacity and hubby has POA over health and welfare so he thought he made the final decision on where he lives (which needs to be in the care home) Now they want a best interest meeting to decide what happens in 3 months time as dols has been applied til then (on the phone she said a year) and have given scenarios on his future, being, 1, stays in the care home, 2, sent home with care package 4 times daily) 3, sheltered housing with care 4 times daily) they have given pros and cons of each scenario for him. it is so ridiculous, he couldn't manage with a care package we set up for him when he had them 3 times a day ( he kept sending them away early and then putting the oven on with nothing in it) and home manager and all the drs have said he requires 24 hr care. He gets up in the night and needs help going to the toilet, he wanders, he isn't safe to go out on his own (which he would do if he was in the flat) what the hell do we have a lasting POA for if they are going to stand in our way every time we try to get him to settle. Yes, I know he wants to go home but the reality is that he doesn't even know what year he's living in, he's telling them all he cooks his dinner, get his own drinks, does his own shopping, none of this is true. When the dol was done she said it would be applied for a year then reviewed. Nothing was said about another meeting to discuss the future and if we have to go to another meeting where he is there it is going to undo everything we have worked towards to getting him settled. Do we have to attend a best interest meeting for a DOLS if hubby has POA, and why bother to have it if it's challenged at every turn. We are now beside ourselves with worry and stress. He won't even last a week in the flat without falling over, falling down the steps to his front door, he won't know where he is going if he goes out (and he will) he'll get on his blasted scooter which terrifies us completely.
Please can someone advise us what to say.
We then get an email from SW saying that best interests meeting needs to be set up asap to decide fil long term future (they are still pushing for him to go back to the flat, even though every doctor and assessor says he lacks capacity and hubby has POA over health and welfare so he thought he made the final decision on where he lives (which needs to be in the care home) Now they want a best interest meeting to decide what happens in 3 months time as dols has been applied til then (on the phone she said a year) and have given scenarios on his future, being, 1, stays in the care home, 2, sent home with care package 4 times daily) 3, sheltered housing with care 4 times daily) they have given pros and cons of each scenario for him. it is so ridiculous, he couldn't manage with a care package we set up for him when he had them 3 times a day ( he kept sending them away early and then putting the oven on with nothing in it) and home manager and all the drs have said he requires 24 hr care. He gets up in the night and needs help going to the toilet, he wanders, he isn't safe to go out on his own (which he would do if he was in the flat) what the hell do we have a lasting POA for if they are going to stand in our way every time we try to get him to settle. Yes, I know he wants to go home but the reality is that he doesn't even know what year he's living in, he's telling them all he cooks his dinner, get his own drinks, does his own shopping, none of this is true. When the dol was done she said it would be applied for a year then reviewed. Nothing was said about another meeting to discuss the future and if we have to go to another meeting where he is there it is going to undo everything we have worked towards to getting him settled. Do we have to attend a best interest meeting for a DOLS if hubby has POA, and why bother to have it if it's challenged at every turn. We are now beside ourselves with worry and stress. He won't even last a week in the flat without falling over, falling down the steps to his front door, he won't know where he is going if he goes out (and he will) he'll get on his blasted scooter which terrifies us completely.
Please can someone advise us what to say.