I think I may have been a bit slow here, but it has finally dawned on me.
Mum lives in a warden controlled council bungalow (warden never been seen since she moved in 8/9 years ago)
Since dad died 5 years ago, she has always blamed me for putting her there, and has constantly said she wants to go back to where she lived before . Is this the same as "wanting to go home" i.e. she is not settled where she is because she knows things are appearing to go wrong there, but she (in her mind) is searching for something to make it right and she maybe thinks that living where she lived and brought her children up and everything was rosy with dad and kids at home, was her "happy place"
She gets very angry sometimes and every day says she is going to see the local councillor to see if he can arrange for her to move back (she never does it, just says it ) but it gets a bit tiring hearing her going on about the same thing every day.
She says the place she lives is dirty and the woman that had the place before her left it a dirty mess (it was immaculate, as we decorated it right through before she moved in) She also relates it to being the place where dad died, so this may have some bearing on things.
I don't know if I am right or not, what do you think? She is so convincing though, I am almost tempted to contact the council and see if she can move back to the area she lived in before just for some peace, but what would I do if she carried on the same way there, she cannot keep moving forever.
Maggie
Mum lives in a warden controlled council bungalow (warden never been seen since she moved in 8/9 years ago)
Since dad died 5 years ago, she has always blamed me for putting her there, and has constantly said she wants to go back to where she lived before . Is this the same as "wanting to go home" i.e. she is not settled where she is because she knows things are appearing to go wrong there, but she (in her mind) is searching for something to make it right and she maybe thinks that living where she lived and brought her children up and everything was rosy with dad and kids at home, was her "happy place"
She gets very angry sometimes and every day says she is going to see the local councillor to see if he can arrange for her to move back (she never does it, just says it ) but it gets a bit tiring hearing her going on about the same thing every day.
She says the place she lives is dirty and the woman that had the place before her left it a dirty mess (it was immaculate, as we decorated it right through before she moved in) She also relates it to being the place where dad died, so this may have some bearing on things.
I don't know if I am right or not, what do you think? She is so convincing though, I am almost tempted to contact the council and see if she can move back to the area she lived in before just for some peace, but what would I do if she carried on the same way there, she cannot keep moving forever.
Maggie