My husband has been in a care home for 9 weeks now. I am wondering if he or I will ever adjust? After 45 years together and promising him I would never put him in a home I have been forced to do so because I can no longer cope. I struggled with him at home for 8 years. if it hadn't been for the falling and the fact i couldn't lift him anymore I think he would still be at home. But the guilt is enormous. There is no relief that he is now in a home. The dementia unit is horrible but all the good homes are full. He always wants to come with me when I leave. I hate leaving him there. I wonder if I will ever leave him there and not be upset on the way home? If you have been in this position tell me if it improves or just stays the same.