I saw my dad's behaviour deteriorate last year, so i emailed his GP, asking for help. HIs GP (luckily a dementia specialist) called him in for a check up, then sent him for a scan. Dad was diagnosed with Alzheimers and vascular dementia last autumn. He and mum (85 and 83) carried on until mum had a fall and i moved in to support them. I noticed his deliriums and rages were getting worse, and sadly he had a major episode at the end of April. I had to call an ambulance, and since then he has been in a care home under "discharge to assess" We've now been told he will have to stay in EMI care as he is becoming more aggressive (verbally) and agitated. He hasn't been told yet. He keeps calling me and mum, crying to come home. I feel he is deteriorating in the care home, because he is so agitated to come home. But if he was at home he would be getting agitated at the most innocuous things, and taking it out on mum. It's utterly heartbreaking, particularly for mum. They have been very happily married for 63 years, and only even spent a week apart (when dad had surgery for lung cancer) He survived that, but this is killing all of us. I feel utterly wretched (I called the ambulance and feel massive guilt every day) I know I only asked for help (his GP surgery recommended calling the ambulance as dad was raging by this point) but i feel i have killed my dad