Hi @Betty65 - keeping Mum's diagnosis a secret from everybody was merely to stop her being distressed at what she would have perceived as the most awful fate possible. It would have been so much easier for me to share with others what was happening - and you are right, people could then have been understanding - but her GP (who knew Mum well) decided and I agreed, that in the severely depressed state that Mum was in the result would have been a rapidly downward spiral.
I kept this 'secret' for as long as I needed rather than let her worst fears be realised and watch her give up completely and slip away in misery.
Everyone is different. My reply was to describe what we had done and how it had worked out. This was 100% right for my Mum - not so for others.
It gave us 2.5 more years together - and that's all I care about.
I kept this 'secret' for as long as I needed rather than let her worst fears be realised and watch her give up completely and slip away in misery.
Everyone is different. My reply was to describe what we had done and how it had worked out. This was 100% right for my Mum - not so for others.
It gave us 2.5 more years together - and that's all I care about.