This is going to be long and rambling. Sorry. TP has been so helpful since my OH was diagnosed with FLD. He is now in residential care as I could not look after him at our small cottage. He has a tendency to fall. He however does not see this as a problem and so whenever I visit, most of the time is taken up going round and round why he can't home. He gets very emotional and angry with me. The carers tell me that he's ok with them. He seems settled. He refuses to join in with anyone else there and eats all his meals in his room. I try not to get into a discussion about the future but changing the subject doesn't always work. When I visit it's always in his room so trying to slip away unnoticed isn't possible. I try to reassure him that I'll be back so I don't say " goodbye" I tell him when I'm coming back and say "see you in a bit" . I walk out of his room then I hear him shouting my name. I don't know whether or not to go back as it concerns me that he's trying to stand up and then ends up falling down !! It's just so hard. How, after 12 years of caring for someone do you stop and plan things for youself not OH. I feel so guilty that I can come and go as I please whilst OH is there. Everyone tells me that I have to stop worrying but how do you? How do you go out for lunch with dear friends and stop feeling guilty? I'm also trying hard not to visit everyday as it unsettles him and upsets me. Trouble is I feel guilty again !! Does it get easier or is that an impossible question?