@Splashing About You don't say how old your mum is although that doesn't really help with a prognosis. Dad is nearly 90 but his brother lived until he was almost 95 so that doesn't help me much. Dad should be in a home but being as he is such a happy man and still continent (very important) I just can't do it. I suppose I am waiting to be where you are and something will happen to take it out of my hands. He nearly went into a care home after his pneumonia last March but he rallied and came home.
Ideally it is best if they can go to a care home straight from hospital.
Mum is 84. She is incontinent ...started with accidents 2 yrs ago. I recommend the vax carpet cleaner... we have fought and fought for incontinence items to be provided on the NHS but had to fill in food charts, poo charts, wee charts and collect samples and a whole host of impossible stuff. Eventually managed it and a three month supply was delivered the day she went into hospital....
If mum were happy I’d find this so much easier but the dementia has been notable for her unhappiness. That’s harder than poo everywhere tbh!