A DOLs (Deprivation of Liberty Order) would be taken out to cover the hospital so they are lawfully preventing your father from leaving. You probably knew this but it is very commonly used with patients who are confused and probably need to be "specialled" one to one. It sounds as if communication is lacking here and quite rightly you should mention this - hopefully to the ward manager in writing. Best wishes for the Best Interests Meeting.Thanks for your support
X all it means a lot even though I don’t know you all but i know many have followed my nightmare journey been through similar
Today i feel like the saint that betrayed jesus at the last supper if anyone understands ? i feel awful
I feel so ill everything is moved so quick dad was so confused yesterday he kept dozing off then putting hes pull up
On hes head/pulling the bed up fiddling around with pillows taking out rubbish from the bins in bathroom etc etc @Jessbow the nurse told me last night he also not getting he pull ups changed wet himself twice and found him in wet pyjamas /nurses getting fed up its as if hes just there but being ignored i find it difficult to get basic information ie has he slept/ate as nurses too busy then if i do manage its a wuick 2 minutes and another nurse comes in or i get sorry too busy
Hes not eating the hospital food n they not encourageing him /or drinking
Hes had a dols out on him but nobody informed me i found out by accident very annoyed about it ill be bringing that up at the meeting
DoLs is fairly standard, i'd have been surprised if they hadn't. its not something they need your permission to do, and really doesnt affect you.Thanks for your support
X all it means a lot even though I don’t know you all but i know many have followed my nightmare journey been through similar
Today i feel like the saint that betrayed jesus at the last supper if anyone understands ? i feel awful
I feel so ill everything is moved so quick dad was so confused yesterday he kept dozing off then putting hes pull up
On hes head/pulling the bed up fiddling around with pillows taking out rubbish from the bins in bathroom etc etc @Jessbow the nurse told me last night he also not getting he pull ups changed wet himself twice and found him in wet pyjamas /nurses getting fed up its as if hes just there but being ignored i find it difficult to get basic information ie has he slept/ate as nurses too busy then if i do manage its a wuick 2 minutes and another nurse comes in or i get sorry too busy
Hes not eating the hospital food n they not encourageing him /or drinking
Hes had a dols out on him but nobody informed me i found out by accident very annoyed about it ill be bringing that up at the meeting
I have POa /next of kin so should have been informedDoLs is fairly standard, i'd have been surprised if they hadn't. its not something they need your permission to do, and really doesnt affect you.
At least they have got him to wear pulls ups- thats a move forward
Yes i am .and going for covid test ive already tested negative last night but going to do another one tomorrow@deepetshopboy so sorry to hear that your dad now Covid. You say that you can not visit but as you've had contact with your dad, shouldn't you also be self-isolating?
Cannot go in hospital at all as hes in covid ward but if he goes into home i will ask thanksTry seeing if you can be classed as an’essential Carer’ it is a term used in care homes for people with dementia and other issues that need continuous familiar care. The definition is on the government website
hope this helps X
Pals are hopeless the office is closed and the only way is by email which they dont reply to and phone they sent a quick text saying they would get the ward to call meI'm so terribly sorry you are going through this - it is beyond unacceptable. I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels really angry on your behalf. When I hear accounts like this it makes me scared stiff about hospitals so hope I don't ever need one. I would be very reluctant to put myself in their hands...
Glad you are in touch with PALS - they are probably your best hope.
Thank you x