No you haven’t offended me and its been extremely stressful and traumatic over not just the last few weeks but yrs literally one thing after another im not against homes just feel he might well be better off in a mixed home with more people@deepetshopboy please slow down and breathe. the care plan will be done and he will get the care he needs. they know to change, to clean teeth, glasses, etc. your dad is going to react when he sees you panicking. you may need to take a step back and allow them to care for your dad, then you can see the standard of care that they are giving him. when you first walk into a home, it is overwhelming and frightening. your dad needs to settle so it may be easier on you both if you have a break , take stock and try and come to terms with the new stage in his life. you have done amazingly well to care for your dad as well as you have and for as long as you have. now you really need some respite to rest and recuperate from all the tough times you have been going through. i hope that makes sense and i havent offended you.