Hi everyone, I am a new user on this site and have found it through trying to find out if the signs my dad are displaying may point to dementia. He's 79 and has become increasingly frail over the past few months, also forgetful and confused. He says its just old age, but some of these things are really bothering me. His memory is shot, he can't remember what day it is, he just sits in his chair all day and has a very negative attitude on life, which he never used to have. He's started doing silly things which at the moment aren't dangerous, just daft, like walking into the kitchen last night to tell me my husband was home, but not thinking to go and open the door for him! Then setting the table at our little kitchen one, instead of seeing that the main table was already set. He put wash liquid in the conditioner drawer of the washer. He won't walk anywhere even though he has a physio come to see him to try and encourage him. He's 'waiting for god' as my hubby says. I personally find it hard to cope with all this and don't know whether to make him go to the doctor for a diagnosis or not. I fear it would really upset him and it would be difficult to make him go. He's probably afraid and I understand that. I don't know whether just to accept it and stop pushing him or keep on at him. Maybe it's my feelings that are the problem! We have a comfortable home, no financial difficulties and he has everything done for him. I also have an adult son with autism living at home who. although he doesn't create any problems, still needs supervising and running around, and I think I'm entering the 'change' which doesn't help, as I'm all over the place! I just need someone to talk to outside the home who understands what I'm feeling, and help to sort it all out. I'm usually a very capable person, but maybe because it's so close to home I'm finding it hard to cope. Sorry to have gone on, but it has helped just putting it all down. Any support or advice would be greatly appreciated.