My husband, who will be 77 next month, has Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer's which were finally diagnosed a couple of years ago. This morning he has been upstairs for almost four hours trying to put on a pair of jeans over trainers which he will not take off his feet. He will not change his clothes or underwear which he put on yesterday and has slept in, nor will he let me wash him, he won't shower or bathe. He has not had any breakfast and probably won't eat lunch. As he is also incontinent it's very important that I can at least wash him. This behaviour is becoming a regular thing and I don't know what to do anymore. I am out of ideas - can anyone suggest anything please.