Does anyone else dread visiting their parent? I am seeing my 89 year old mum tomorrow, and already I am getting stressed about it. She does not want to see me either, but wants her spending money. She will often snatch the money out of my hand then tell me to ****** off! I have to insist she lets me in to check she has food and carers and cleaners have been, and to check how she is. We never got on even when I was very young, and I never did anything right, and she enjoyed upsetting me. I 'care' for her out of duty, there is certainly no love or even respect.