Really not sure where to start. My dad has a stroke in 2013 and had some memory problems arising from it but as he lives in Southern Ireland and I live in England I dont see him much. (I do ring but hes never been great at answering the phone or even talking on it) 2 weeks ago I found out he'd been in hospital after having a fall overnight (he'd been in hospital 6 weeks before a family member thought to tell me - my parents divorced and his side of the family dont have anything to do with me or my sister) On talking to the hospital it turns out he has dementia, they were about to let him return to his flat (rented) as he wasnt a danger to himself but I had just found out he has been conned out of 12k by his cleaner/carer/friend. My dad does not have me down as next of kin but a distant relative (cousin a few times removed as she lives near him) The hospital have applied for funding for him to go into a carehome without discussing it with me- I cant get through to his social worker as the number is engaged and the staff at the hosp tell me they cant tell me what's going on and the sw will call me back (I'm still waiting for a Dr's and SW's call back from last week) Does anyone know can they put him into a home without informing me, I dont even know how bad his dementia really is and when I speak to the nurses they just tell me he's fine I dont know how the Irish system works and I feel all at sea as its all been a big shock (Dad has always been forgetful and mixed up people even when I was a small child so I hadnt noticed anything different when talking to him on the phone). I'm assuming that if they do get his 80% of income he will still be liable for any rent and utility bills on his rented place until I (or someone) surrenders it - can the SW/medical team do this on his behalf does anyone know? I can't even just drop everything as I have my kids (4&8) and no-one who can look after them whilst my OH is at work at short notice.