Advice please.
Mum is in advanced stages of dementia, mainly vascular we think. She does seem to suffer weakness in her left side and her left leg has a tremor. Her left hand tends to be scrunched up, and now we have noticed that her wrist is dropping. When I try to straighten her fingers it obviously causes her pain. I am worried that this means that she is going to be in pain whenever she is dressed/ undressed. Is this happening with anyone else? I don't know if it is to do with deterioration due to the dementia, or arthritis. I have pointed it out to the nursing home, and asked them to massage the hand as it does seem to help. I think I may ask them to get the doctor to have a look; as I am on half term this week I may be able to be there to try and talk to him myself.
On another tack, I'm having difficulty accepting mum being in the Nursing Home. It is OK on days when I don't see her, but when I have been to visit I feel so awful coming away. Mum does not appear to be perturbed by it, but she is more isolated than when she was at home. I've been this afternoon and tonight I cannot sleep because she is in my head. I seem to come to this same place every weekend. Day by day eh Norman? And today is another day, and later on I can go and be with her,and make her smile, and for a couple of hours know that she is being loved and is not alone.
Hopefully I am tired enough now to sleep, if not there might be another message later! Thanks for listening. Night night.
Amy
Mum is in advanced stages of dementia, mainly vascular we think. She does seem to suffer weakness in her left side and her left leg has a tremor. Her left hand tends to be scrunched up, and now we have noticed that her wrist is dropping. When I try to straighten her fingers it obviously causes her pain. I am worried that this means that she is going to be in pain whenever she is dressed/ undressed. Is this happening with anyone else? I don't know if it is to do with deterioration due to the dementia, or arthritis. I have pointed it out to the nursing home, and asked them to massage the hand as it does seem to help. I think I may ask them to get the doctor to have a look; as I am on half term this week I may be able to be there to try and talk to him myself.
On another tack, I'm having difficulty accepting mum being in the Nursing Home. It is OK on days when I don't see her, but when I have been to visit I feel so awful coming away. Mum does not appear to be perturbed by it, but she is more isolated than when she was at home. I've been this afternoon and tonight I cannot sleep because she is in my head. I seem to come to this same place every weekend. Day by day eh Norman? And today is another day, and later on I can go and be with her,and make her smile, and for a couple of hours know that she is being loved and is not alone.
Hopefully I am tired enough now to sleep, if not there might be another message later! Thanks for listening. Night night.
Amy