I really feel for you all, my husband was in hospital for three weeks with aspirational pneumonia, he came home and within three days had another chest infection. He was making loud whooping noises, a bit like whooping cough.
That was frightening. After several phone calls to check, I gave him antibiotics I have been given a supply. This is the pattern, like many older people he does not get a raised temperature.
He went into hospital as he had had hiccups for a long time, he was dehydrated because I could not get enough fluid into him and he had had diarrhoea although that had stopped by the time he went in. He was exhausted and waxy looking.
It is difficult to have to make the final call isn't it.
Our personal feeling is that the final stages of life are very important, it is a time to be cherished. When my husband was on the ward a man died, he had been walking around then he was confined to bed. My husband strongly asserted that it was wrong he had so little help. I asked in what way, he said the two women who visited should have been holding his hand and talking to him. A ward is not always conducive to this.
The legal situation is that if a DNAR is in place then a person should not be resuscitated, anyone who interprets that differently needs further educating. To distinguish, not to resuscitate is when the heart has stopped and there are no signs of life, this is not the same as someone becoming unwell but who does not suffer cardiac arrest, in which case they need to be seen by a medical professional and given if necessary appropriate treatment.
I believe the old saying correctly is 'pneumonia is an old mans best friend' and to be fair it is better than other ways of leaving this world.
I think that you have made some wise decisions Alice and I follow you in that
The legal situation is that if a DNAR is in place then a person should not be resuscitated, anyone who interprets that differently needs further educating. To distinguish, not to resuscitate is when the heart has stopped and there are no signs of life, this is not the same as someone becoming unwell but who does not suffer cardiac arrest, in which case they need to be seen by a medical professional and given if necessary appropriate treatment.
I believe the old saying correctly is 'pneumonia is an old mans best friend' and to be fair it is better than other ways of leaving this world.
I think that you have made some wise decisions Alice and I follow you in that
Thank you, you have confirmed my thinking. It is good having your experienced wisdom on here.