I hadn't expected to be writing again with another problem quite so soon -even now, in the back of my mind I still secretly believe that Mum will be different, and not get any worse. However...
Mum was here for her meal this evening as usual (I do all her cooking), and she was looking particularly down in the dumps. I wasn't at all prepared for her reply to my question, 'what's the matter?'. She told me that she was utterly fed up. She hadn't seen a soul all day, never does, that it was too quiet, that she wanted to move back to her home town and live with her sister. Her sister would look after her, and she would sell the home here which she has only just purchased!
I could not believe what I was hearing! She had begged me to find her something close to me, and we have been very fortunate in doing so. I could see that she couldn't cope alone, and I am pretty sure that she would not be alive today had she been fending for herself this last year since Dad died.
The thing is, only last week I was saying to my husband that even a morning's trip to the supermarket seems to overwhelm her. I try to amuse her, find things to do, but so much causes her distress. Either she is stressed out by 'too much', (which isn't very much at all), or she feels bored with nothing going on. Last week, she has had her neighbours calling in, several times a day, I have arranged a supper to have with a close neighbour, she has been on a walk, she has done this, done that .....but all is forgotten as soon as it's over, isn't it? She can't remember that she has been so occupied!
I have arranged for her sister to come and spend a few days with her this week. If she says the same things to her, I can imagine the uproar! Everyone thought she should have stayed put in her own home, that she was just grieving, and nobody believed the diagnosis of AD. I am panicking, feel very upset. Here I am trying to make everything right for her .............Please, has anyone been through this? Will it all have gone away by tomorrow?
I couldn't cope if she carries on with this ...not after the year we've just had. Perhaps I should go to see her GP? We're not due back at the clinic till October.
Mum was here for her meal this evening as usual (I do all her cooking), and she was looking particularly down in the dumps. I wasn't at all prepared for her reply to my question, 'what's the matter?'. She told me that she was utterly fed up. She hadn't seen a soul all day, never does, that it was too quiet, that she wanted to move back to her home town and live with her sister. Her sister would look after her, and she would sell the home here which she has only just purchased!
I could not believe what I was hearing! She had begged me to find her something close to me, and we have been very fortunate in doing so. I could see that she couldn't cope alone, and I am pretty sure that she would not be alive today had she been fending for herself this last year since Dad died.
The thing is, only last week I was saying to my husband that even a morning's trip to the supermarket seems to overwhelm her. I try to amuse her, find things to do, but so much causes her distress. Either she is stressed out by 'too much', (which isn't very much at all), or she feels bored with nothing going on. Last week, she has had her neighbours calling in, several times a day, I have arranged a supper to have with a close neighbour, she has been on a walk, she has done this, done that .....but all is forgotten as soon as it's over, isn't it? She can't remember that she has been so occupied!
I have arranged for her sister to come and spend a few days with her this week. If she says the same things to her, I can imagine the uproar! Everyone thought she should have stayed put in her own home, that she was just grieving, and nobody believed the diagnosis of AD. I am panicking, feel very upset. Here I am trying to make everything right for her .............Please, has anyone been through this? Will it all have gone away by tomorrow?
I couldn't cope if she carries on with this ...not after the year we've just had. Perhaps I should go to see her GP? We're not due back at the clinic till October.