when I visit my mother (in her own home) if I take some "lunch" from m&s which is on my way out of the station before I get a cab up the winding road to her...the sandwiches and cake usually get eaten by me and hers left for her as she aint hungry!..if I bring nowt she says what would you like for lunch?? since I order all her groceries there is always something but I can't bear to go through this as it is so normal/sad and from the past..she always pushed the boat out foodwise when I visited before and I cant face pretending now, one of the first signs of her dementia was her not providing lunch!!....so I often say we'll eat together on our bench outside (which she loves sitting on) next time I come....and having arrived at crack of dawn..9am.... I leave before her carer prepares her mid afternoon lunch...