learning to be alone I've been alone for periods of time before when Ray has been in hospital or respite so I've had practice. I can see that when he is permanently in care that will be different too, no coming in that door again. It is lonely sometimes and I do find myself aware of the silence. I am really in the early stages of learning to be alone. We have a lot of widows at church and they do have Sunday lunch together, go out to different places in a group, belong to the same committees, go to clubs etc. I will be one of their number one day and hope they will welcome me into their group. In the meantime I guess you just fill in the time as best you can. There is plenty to do during the day and at night there is TV, phone calls, chatting on Facebook or messenger. Nothing is the same as having your own loved one with you, maybe not as they are today but as they once were. I've loved being a member of a couple but we all have to face up to that loneliness at some time. Sue.